The Need for Human Design Parenting



It is a fascinating thing to really see your child for who they are. To recognize the beauty of their being, how they are designed to be respected, and watch them blossom when they are raised according to their true nature is incredibly rewarding. Understanding your child's Human Design honors their authenticity and allows their uniqueness to develop fully.

The majority of humans are conditioned to sameness from the moment of birth by parents who have been through the system themselves and want what they think is best for their child. The standard education system fosters the belief that truth can be found somewhere outside of yourself, and that decisions should be made from the mind's logic. We are often told to think things over, make a list, weigh the pros and cons, and so on. We are trained through repetition, tested in the manner that rewards accurate memory of facts, figures, logical ways of conceptualizing and communicating. This methodology of learning can give us the notion that the most important thing is the ability to recall and repeat the facts fed to us by the collective. We are taught through experiences of standardized tests to compare ourselves to others based on the testing of our intelligence as the system defines it.

When we question these methods or fail them as children, we are met with anger, ridicule or disappointment. If you do not obey your own authority then your opinion of yourself along with your path through life could be determined by authorities outside of you. What we are shown through conditioning is that success depends on our conformity to the norm which only some people are designed to excel at. Excel or not, you are ushered into even further structures (college and corporations) that tend to reward you for conforming, following and obeying. Many children are encouraged to leave behind creative dreams their elders tell them are unrealistic or don't make enough money, for careers thought to be more practical and lucrative.


When we try to conform, the experience of mediocrity or failing in the system can weigh heavily upon us. Not to mention the weight of conditioning that comes from decisions made because of adaptive strategies derived in the openness within us.

Whether we are unable or refuse to conform, we become intellectual or social outcasts if we deviate from the prescribed norm. Subsequently we can be looked down upon or looked over if we try to re-enter the system… or even when we say what we do when we meet someone new.

To someone who is firmly rooted in an understanding of and appreciation for who they are, the opinions and judgements of others mean very little. The pure frequency of such a being is not susceptible to conditioning and homogenization as is someone who is unaware. Therefore their experience of resistance in terms of anger, bitterness, frustration and disappointment does not characterize the life that they live.

By learning your child's unique Human Design and treating them accordingly, you can bestow them with the gift of self-acceptance. The gift of respecting and guiding them to treasure their uniqueness in a correct way will continue to benefit them for the rest of their life.

More and more children and young adults are discovering Human Design. Their process is much easier than the difficult experience of deconditioning that we adults have to go through. As an adult (we reach maturity at our Uranus Opposition, between 38-44 years of age) you have deeply ingrained habits learned from a lifetime of conditioning. Habits form grooves in your brain, patterns in your behavior and beliefs about what is true. It's difficult to change long-seated beliefs and patterns. The older you get, the harder it is to change. How different would life have been for you had you been parented in a way that honored the dynamics of your unique being? How different would life had been if you had known how to decide what to do?



Human Design Parenthood is Rewarding

It is no small task when we shoulder the responsibilities of parenting. We perform the privilege of guiding a unique consciousness as to how to function in this Maia - this illusion of separateness.

The life of a parent is a challenging thing. Suddenly you have a being constantly absorbing everything that you do and learning from your example by imitating. They evolve with your nurturing and are helpless in that respect. Will you nurture them to be the shining example of who they really are? Or will you mold them into the image of what you think they should be?

With awareness, the choice is clear. Now that you have Human Design, you can see the map of the energies that makes your child unique. Understanding Human Design can help you wake up to the conditioning that clouds your perception, not only of your children but of others in your life and yourself as well.


In the first seven years of life the patterns of a child's behaviors are established. Every time you interact with a child, you create opportunities for conditioning. Conditioning (adaptive behaviors) happens when our minds try to protect the openness in our design. Elders generally feel it’s their responsibility to tell younger ones what to do - what to think, how to behave, what to feel, what to watch out for and fear. Essentially passing on a conditioned mindset they were taught rather than putting the child in touch with their unique authority.

With awareness of the openness in their design, those painful conditioned behaviors can be explained and understood. Offering unconditional love of the child through the lens of their unique Human Design and treating them accordingly is an incomparable way to nurture their abilities, talents and gifts.


Aware Human Design Parenting

Following your own Strategy and Authority allows you to make decisions that lead to expressing a clearer and clearer frequency of what it is to be you. Authenticity makes you a great role model for your child.

Treating your child according to their type is the most fundamental way you can honor and respect who they are. Encouraging your child to follow their unique Strategy and Authority gives them a tremendous advantage in life. Learning how to navigate decision-making for themselves and empowering them to trust that they can choose what’s right for them benefits their lives in the best way possible.

Recognizing your, and your children's, true nature through treating everyone according to their design not only helps circumvent conditioning, it shows respect. In this way, you are modeling what it means to honor each other's uniqueness.

Want a detailed description of the guiding principles of parenting according to your child's Human Design by Type? We invite you to listen to Ra Uru Hu's lectures, A Human Design Guide to Parenting.


Seeing the mechanics behind behaviors allows you to understand the cause of situations. Knowing your family's individual designs, how they interact and are affected by each other gives you the ability to understand family dynamics. This allows you to use specific solutions for their individual needs rather than using homogenized, conditioned responses.

Human Design can bring you relief as it shows you why you may be extra-sensitive to your child's emotions or they to yours. It can show why this child is clingy and why that one is so independent, ending the comparison of ever thinking or saying, “Why can't you be like so-and-so?” It can help you accept and nurture what makes your children so special and unique, empowering them to be themselves.

Once you have the foundation of Strategy and Authority established, you’re ready for the next steps. Examine their Profile for an understanding of the costume they wear, and address their Personal Health Strategy. We highly recommend our Parenting Package for a comprehensive education on how to raise children according to their unique design.

There is no greater gift for a child than to be seen, loved, accepted and respected for who they are by their parents. With Human Design, you can give your children this gift. Understanding the dynamics at play means more opportunities to exhibit genuine expressions of caring, compassion, kindness and love; especially during moments when stress levels are up.

Finding out the basics of anyone’s Human Design is free at Are you ready to empower your parenting and your child?

By Andrea Abay-Abay



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Raising Children According to Their Design

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A Human Design Guide To Parenting

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A beautifully informative 1hour and 20minute lecture in which Ra explains in great detail how to let your children grow up in a way that is correct for them.

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Nurturing A Unique Being

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Nurturing a Unique Being is a practical and inspiring guide to raising a child correctly.

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The Mechanics of the Maia - Type Series

Everyone is unique. Everyone has the potential for differentiation in this life.

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Your Own Authority - A Beginners Guide to Human Design

By Dharmen and Leela Swann Herbert - 138 age e-Book with full-color illustrations.

This beginner’s guide is a general introduction to the Human Design System, a starting place for people who are wondering, “What is Human Design, and could it be advantageous for me?”

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