Falling in Love


Musings by Ra Uru Hu, (December 2003)

So much has been written and said about the nature of Love.

It is a profound teaching, that love begins within oneself, in the true aloneness of the illusion of form; that universal love can only be found in the Now, in surrender to the life that happens; that there can be no love in or for Humanity until its actions are correct. And finally, that it is our form, our bodies that need to be honored as vehicles of consciousness, and that our differences are holy and mutative.

We are conditioned to learn love from the other, from the mother and the father, from the lover and the child. In this way, we are conditioned to seek love from others in order to ‘feel’ loved.

The ‘not-self’ does not love itself. In not having love within oneself, it becomes a commodity. Something of value worth seeking, suffering, and longing for; a commodity that defines most beings’ lives. The measuring of love, the externalization of Love: ‘He loves me, I love him’, ‘I don’t love him enough’, ‘He doesn’t love me enough’, ‘I wish he loved me more’, and so on.

None of the above is about love. It is more about fear of aloneness, an aloneness void of self-love, driven by inadequacy and insecurity. 

The Vessel of Love

The Equinoxes and Solstices mark the quarters of the year and have been at the core of our spiritual and religious practices.

The Winter Solstice takes place with the Sun in Gate 10.2, “The Hermit: The successful sidestepping of behavioral requirements through isolation.” The 10th Gate is about the potential Love of self, to awaken to the perfection of one's form and to follow its convictions, its nature.

The Spring Equinox has the Sun in the 25th Gate of Innocence, the potential of universal Love through “The Existentialist: Devotion and dedication to the now.”

The Summer Solstice starts with the Sun in the 15th Gate of Modesty, the Gate of Extremes and the potential Love of Humanity. The 15.2 is “Influence: Modesty and right action result in enduring standards.”

Finally, the Autumnal Equinox takes place with the Sun in the 46th Gate of Pushing Upward, the Gate of Serendipity and the potential Love of the Body. The 46.2 is the “Prima Donna: A difficult and demanding nature.”

In the face of that history, it is a great joke to discover that the archetype for embracing Love is the ‘Existential, Influential, Hermit Prima Donna’.


Ra Uru Hu

Ra Uru Hu was the Human Design System’s founder and messenger. Ra dedicated 25 years of his life to the development and teaching of the System around the world until he passed away in 2011.


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